Hey there! Are you expecting your second baby while your first baby is still so little? Are you a mom of two babies under the age of two? Hang in there pretty mama, things WILL get easier with having two under two!
When my second baby came along, my first baby was just getting ready to turn 19 months old. I experienced such terrible Mom-Guilt over the fact that we were having another baby when my oldest was still a baby himself. There were many times that I found myself crying about it, partly because of my pregnancy hormones (because let’s be real, those hormones had me like a hot-mess on an emotional rollercoaster, lol).
My thoughts …
How can I love another baby as much as I love him? … My baby will NOT be the baby anymore! … Will he resent me for that? … I am a horrible mother!!
The Mom-Guilt is real, Y’all!!
But I am here to tell you that once you hold your second-born in your arms, you will realize that you can love another as much as you love your first-born. When you see your babies meet for the first time, prepare for your heart to melt!
What to expect
I will tell you from my personal experience that it was so hard to transition to having our first newborn because everything was so new. I did not realize how often newborns wake up throughout the night or how often they eat and sleep. Honestly, I had very little experience with babies prior to having my first so EVERY bit of it was new to me. The day we arrived home from the hospital with our first-born, I remember thinking to myself ‘They just sent us home with this little itty bitty baby, now what am I supposed to do?”. It was quite an adjustment. When I was pregnant with my second baby, I was constantly told “you’re a pro now, you’ll be fine”. Naturally, I did not believe that because I still felt like I was just winging it. Lol! But I was shocked to find that they were right! The transition from one to two was nothing like the first. I was surprised at how much easier it was. Yes, having two under two does have it’s challenges and you do need to find creative ways of balancing things… but in a sense it was just easier. Perhaps it was because I had already experienced the nightly wake-ups, the middle-of-the-night blow outs, the nursing at odd hours, etc.
It Will Get Easier
My first 2 are now 6 and 4.5 and it is so much fun seeing how close they are. They don’t really argue much about what TV show to watch because they are so close in age that they like watching the same stuff. It is the same way with board games and outdoor activities. Don’t get me wrong, they definitely still have their sibling quarrels as most siblings do, but they are also the best of friends. We went on to have two more; which made our family complete. So hang in there, Momma! I promise things will get easier! If you are searching for ideas on how to manage Two Under Two, here are some Tips that might be helpful.
If you are a momma of Two Under Two and would like to leave a helpful piece of advice, please feel free to comment below or message me here. Take care momma and cherish these moments with your babies while they are still little and want to snuggle. It goes by so fast.